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  My Girlfriend's a JW, but I am not, What to do???

  by Another Guy in

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  2. friends

  just wondering if anyone can help, so heres a little insight into the situation.. we've been friens for ages but she always told me we could be nothing more she said "theres stuff you dont know about me & you wouldnt understand" but one night i kinda hinted that i knew and she fessed up not only bout being a jw but also bout how she felt only thing is she says its not gonna work, but she wants it to work she wants me to convert and i want her to leave the orgainization.

  her mothers been a witness for ten years but her father is not.

  also she hasnt paid much attention to it either till a few months ago and shes starting to get into it now.

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  concerned mama

  Perhaps a bit more information would clarify things, Another Guy. Do you know if she has been baptized? I would guess not, if she is only "getting into it" now. How old are the 2 of you? Are you looking for a casual girlfriend, or are you thinking that you might like a more serious relationship? How does she feel about her parent's mixed relationship?

  Part of growing up and maturing for her is deciding whether she want so live the Witness religion/cult and culture. It sounds like she is exploring that option right now. You have received excellent advice from some of the posters here. If she is at early stages of indoctrination, it may be possible for her to break free, with your help. Remember, by turning her back on the JWs, she risks losing all her JW family and friends, and they may shun her depending on how hard line they are. It is a huge choice with enormous consequences for her.

  Should she decide that she wants to stay with the JWs, make sure you separate and move on with your life. Even is she left for you, but still believed, the situation would be very risky. Unless she is completely de programmed, there would be a high risk of her going back to the JWs someday during a period of stress in her life.

  Remember to protect yourself. Try and free her if you wish, but if it isn't working, it is time to move on to look for a healthier relationship.

  Please check your in box.
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  Happy Halloween, Folks!

  by Farkel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  this was my project for last year, and it took much of the year to learn and play it, but it is "halloween appropriate.

  " it is the danse macabre and was orginally written for orchestra only.

  franz liszt did the piano reduction, and it is nearly impossible to play.

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  concerned mama

  Wow, Farkel! That excellent level of musicianship must takes hours of practise.
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  When or how is a non-JW spouse considered a "Spiritual Endangerment"?

  by marriedtodamob in

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  please educate me my dear friends, and hold nothing back please-i would rather be prepared than caught off guard.. thanks,.

  mobbie

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  concerned mama

  gti2002,

  Ask your husband to get you the JW book "The Secrets of Family Happiness", or you ask his parents for a copy. This book tells all about how a JW marriage is supposed to be. Read it, then go through the specific issues with your husband to see how each of you feels. If he wants his marriage and life to become what is suggested in that book, you may be the one who will no longer want to be a part of it.

  I'm not JW. I found that book highly insulting both as a woman and a normal person.
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  Basketball and JW's

  by lastcall in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i was a jw it was pretty much a weekly thing in the cold weather months for different congregations(actually someone within the congregation) to rent a gym for th bros to play ball.

  i really like playing ball.

  when i left, that as something i actually missed.

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  concerned mama

  I know there is such a thing as "brother's hockey" here. Sort of mixed ages I think.
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  Wanna send me some current books?

  by Buster in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been wantin' to read (at least look at) some of the recent stuff.

  so, any current jw's out there willing to send me:daniel bookboth isaiah booksis there a recent jehovah book?a recent watchtower or two.

  of course i'll pay postage and the suggested donation.

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  concerned mama

  If what you want is on the 2001 CD, it may be easier to have someone mail you a copy of a CD. I recall that someone on the forum has provided that service.
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  Elder Kid Behaviour An Issue? 22/10/2003 Awake!

  by Stephanus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in the young people ask section, the question is posed: "how can i come out from under my parents' shadow" then you get two quotes from supposed elders' kids, identified only by their first names.

  one says he is only known as his elder father's son, whereas the other one feels pressure to live up to high standards being an elder's son.

  the tower's response?

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  concerned mama

  What about if an elders's kid decided "the Truth" wasn't the truth, at all? I feel sorry for those kids. They would be under tons of pressure and would have an ever harder time to fade. They would also likely realize that their family would take a hard line stance with regard to shunning them if they did leave the WT. They would be feeling trapped. I feel sorry for those kids.

  I recently learned at a conference that suicide is the second largest cause of death for teenagers, after accidents. Couldn't a situation like this lead to a suicidal depression?
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  What does the word "apostate" mean to you ?

  by skiz in

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  i'm not asking for which dictionary definition you prefer, and i'm not looking for the borg's definition.

  what i'm asking is what thought strikes you when you hear an xjw being called an "apostate".

  that term makes me think.

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  concerned mama

  minimus,

  jgnat and I are "normal" thanks to you, and we like it.

  lol
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  my brother is so frustrating! arrgh!

  by jwbot in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  ok, well my brother is really the only one in my family that continues to freely associate with me.

  he is two years younger than me (19) and has always looked up to me-for some reason.

  he has been dating a girl name tess for the last couple months or so in the traditional dub fasion (barely any contact).

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  concerned mama

  jwbot, he is young, foolish and very naive. How could he be anything else with the upbringing he's had? Thank goodness that he has you to nudge him along. It sounds like he isn't the type to read apostate material, but maybe you can find neutral educational sites for some of the other issues .
  

  This site is considered to be one of the best for accurate, teen sex ed.

  http://www.sxetc.org/default.asp
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  What Bugs You The Most About Jehovah's Witnesses?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  is it the theology?

  is it the smugness that many witnesses have?

  is it the multitude of false prophecies and errors?

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  concerned mama

  That they think they are right, all the time, without ever hearing or reading an opposing viewpoint or evidence.
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  47th wedding anniversary

  by arancia in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  today is a special day for my husband and i,it is our 47th wedding anniversary.it is special because ,up to this day we still very much united and still in love.we have had like many other our hard times.we got married in the catholic church,in venice,and thanks god we did not need the elder to tell us what to do with our selfs.

  we always work out according to our necessity,and situations.

  we always have been faithful to each other,honest and sincere as been and still our priority,perfect parents?

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  concerned mama

  Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!